Dave,
acutally what was happenng, the app runs in colo facility and I'm using
their smtp server. We also get our email hosted on the same email server.
When the server saw my outbound message was for a user that he hosted, he
tried to just direct it immediately to the mail box. Problem was, the domain
was set up but the user wasnt so it couldn't find a mail box and just
rejected the smtp connection instead of processing it back as "user not
found" email reject message to my email account.
after I set up the user, it worked instantly.
